Our story
I was taught how to build a career. Nobody taught me how to build a life.
Like so many women of my generation, I grew up believing that a strong woman does it all. Be independent. Never need anyone. Work hard, keep raising the bar, and the rest will follow.
So I did. And at 27, I burned out.
Around the same time, I realised something else. The relationships I kept choosing weren’t right for me, and it wasn’t only bad luck. I didn’t really know myself: what I valued, what I needed, or what I wanted an ordinary Friday night to feel like. I was so busy proving I could do everything alone that I never stopped to ask what kind of life I actually wanted.
What I chose instead
Slowly, I found my answer, and it surprised me.
I would rather have a calm life and a beautiful family than a shiny career and a full calendar. I still love my work. But now it serves my life, not the other way around.
When I think about the women before me, I see what they knew that we’ve started to forget: how to tend a home, how to bring people together, how to make an ordinary evening feel special. They didn’t always get to choose their path. I do. And I choose to bring those things back.
Why “Dear Daughter”
Dear Daughter Club began years ago as an idea between four friends. Life moved on, but the idea stayed with me, and after my burnout it came back as a question:
What would I want to teach my daughter, before she has to learn it the hard way?
I don’t have a daughter yet. So these letters are written to her, and to the woman I was at 25: a little lost, a little lonely, working too hard or drifting, and quietly wanting something she wasn’t sure she was allowed to want.
My background in psychology helped me understand my own patterns. But everything I share here, I learned by living it.
What you’ll find here
Letters and practical guides for four parts of a life:
This isn’t a rulebook for how women should live. It’s what I chose, and why, for any woman who feels the same pull.
If you’ve ever wondered whether you’re allowed to want a quiet life, a steady love and a home full of warmth: you are.
With love,Dear Daughter Club
A calm life is a worthy ambition.